I must admit that sex isn’t one of my favorite topics. However, as a married woman, it is a VERY important topic.
So, on one of my women’s fellowship days, the topic of discussion was submission but we gradually talked our way to the topic we secretly love to talk about; SEX. The coordinator talked about the importance of sex and how Christian women ought to be “spicy on bed”. There was a lot of whispering and giggling from women who had children … it almost seemed like she was talking to teenagers…She finally got audible reactions when she mentioned that oral sex was one of the ways to be spicy on bed.
Ahhh!! Argument erupted as one divide said they would never indulge in anything that dirty. The other divide insisted that nothing is unclean in itself as long as it is within the confines of marriage.
I’m sure you’re wondering which side of the divide I belong to. Well, this discussion isn’t about me. I’m just gisting… lol Anyway, the coordinator didn’t allow the obvious disgust of the majority deter her. She delved into the topic and I jotted thus:
Oral sex is oral stimulation of a partner’s genitals with your mouth.
It isn’t unusual for women to avoid oral sex because they feel / think that the penis is full of germs. If this is your concern, then ensure that your husband takes a bath before bedtime and taking a bath with him is spicy too.
Don’t feel inadequate or critical of yourself. Don’t wonder if you’re doing “it” right. Trust me, with communication and practice you will perfect the art. She quoted Songs of Solomon 4: 16 [ I haven’t gotten the revelation yet]
“The decision to enjoy or put up oral sex on your menu is your choice to make and I believe that God is fine with it. However, if the thought sickens you, don’t do it but make sure you look for other ways to be spicy on bed. Remember that monotony can get your husband bored causing him to look for variation outside”
This is the most talked about women’s meeting till today.
So what do you think about oral sex? What side of the divide are you on? These things should be talked about so, please share your opinion.