Do you prefer to get intimate with your spouse in the dark? Or do you get in a particular position in order to hide certain areas of your body?
If you do, STOP!!!
Sex is an activity that requires you to bare it all. It fully exposes your insecurities. Therefore, being self-conscious will definitely ruin the beauty of intimacy. Rather than being present at the “event”, your mind strays away and wonders if “the sagging breasts are obvious” or if “the big stomach is pleasurable for your spouse to touch”
Research shows that a negative body image is one of the major causes of an unhealthy sex life.
Sadly, a negative body image isn’t one that can be tossed away so easily.
According to Merriam-Webster dictionary, Body Image is a subjective picture of one’s own physical appearance established by self-observation and noting the reaction of others.
Note the key word; SUBJECTIVE.
It means that our body image is a perception which is personal or biased. Our body image doesn’t necessarily revealed how people view us.
It is simply how we see ourselves when we look in the mirror.
The weight that you worry about is the last thing on your spouse’s mind. He is more concerned with sharing the innermost part of himself with you.
So, consciously change the way you see yourself. The bible clearly states that – as a man thinketh in his heart, so is he – proverbs 23: 7
If you keep thinking upon your numerous blessings and beauty. You will begin to develop a better body image. This in turn will translate into sexual satisfaction.
The best your spouse can do is give you an enthusiastic reassurance BUT the burden lies on you to see your body as beautiful.