Lights Off !!!


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Do you prefer to get intimate with your spouse in the dark? Or do you get in a particular position in order to hide certain areas of your body?

If you do, STOP!!!

Sex is an activity that requires you to bare it all. It fully exposes your insecurities. Therefore, being self-conscious will definitely ruin the beauty of intimacy. Rather than being present at the “event”, your mind strays away and wonders if “the sagging breasts are obvious” or if “the big stomach is pleasurable for your spouse to touch”

Research shows that a negative body image is one of the major causes of an unhealthy sex life.

Sadly, a negative body image isn’t one that can be tossed away so easily.

According to Merriam-Webster dictionary, Body Image is a subjective picture of one’s own physical appearance established by self-observation and noting the reaction of others.

Note the key word; SUBJECTIVE.

It means that our body image is a perception which is personal or biased. Our body image doesn’t necessarily revealed how people view us.

It is simply how we see ourselves when we look in the mirror.

The weight that you worry about is the last thing on your spouse’s mind. He is more concerned with sharing the innermost part of himself with you.

So, consciously change the way you see yourself. The bible clearly states that – as a man thinketh in his heart, so is he – proverbs 23: 7

If you keep thinking upon your numerous blessings and beauty. You will begin to develop a better body image. This in turn will translate into sexual satisfaction.

The best your spouse can do is give you an enthusiastic reassurance BUT the burden lies on you to see your body as beautiful.

#JustWritingAloud AL



*…Blog picture [lights off] gotten from  through google search.

10 thoughts on “Lights Off !!!

  1. This is a very interesting and sensitive topic. Its all depends on individual’s self esteem. One should be happy and self confident about your body but you should also take care of yourself, by eating right & appropriate exercise.


  2. yeah…. i agree with Viyon… it all depends on one’s self esteem but that doesnt mean one should let themselves go cos they think are ok with it. their health also matters a lot.


  3. Studies have shown that the human body is seventy Percentage(70%) water.
    Studies have also shown that spoken words have effect on water.
    You can equally try this simple experiment yourself;
    (take water from the same source put them into different containers and talk to them. One container positive words and the other negative words for some period of time, maybe a month and see the difference or the effect of your words on it. The one with positive words will look good or pure and the other one with negative will look bad or dirty.)
    This means your words have effect on the water with the same source and condition.
    So words are powerful.
    The bible says “Behold, we put bits in the horses mouths, that they may obey us and we turn about their whole body… So is the tongue among our member, that it defileth the whole body… (James 3:3,6).
    Gentle words cause life and health; griping brings discouragement.(proverb 15:4).
    That is why someone must speak positive words continually for himself or herself and the children God gave them.


  4. A man shall be satistied with good by the fruit of his mouth… (proverb 12:14);
    A man shall eat good by the fruit of his mouth… (proverb 13:2)


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