Mark 10: 8
And the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one flesh.
For the things to become one, they must merge and take up a new form.
The new form becomes an identity.
If you add pineapple juice to coconut juice,
you cannot claim to have pineapple juice neither can you claim to have coconut juice.
You simply have a new juice which you could call pinecoco.
That’s exactly what happens when we get married.
Marriage the way God planned it is one that embraces oneness in every area of the marriage including finances.
Studies show that money is one of the most common source of divorce.
This isn’t a surprise as we have chosen to be one in only areas of our lives that are convenient. We are reluctant to bare it all and be vulnerable. We have taken the oneness described in the book of Mark in its cosmetic form.
Oneness requires that we die to self and merge in every aspect of our lives.
That’s the biblical definition of marriage.
Just like sex, couples are unable to talk about finances.
No one wants to be reminded who works hard to make the money.
This results in hurt feelings, resentment and even lies.
Once we get married, everything should become ‘ours’ not ‘mine’ and this includes money. “Our Money” means that both parties have equal access to the money and should jointly agree on what the money should be spent on.
I believe that God has a plan for our finances. As Christians, we should be able to sit down and agree on how the money should be spent to glorify God as we are just stewards of it. Our ability to manage what God has given us will determine if more will be entrusted in our hands – Matthew 25: 23
Hence, couples must be able to plan and budget without which, great things can hardly be accomplished. Lack of accomplishment can translate to a spouse feeling unfulfilled.
The issue of money gradually gives rise to deeper issues like attitude and values.
One spouse begins to figure out what matters most to the other spouse and trust becomes the core problem.
Our God is all knowing and if he asked that we become one, it is to force us to be accountable to our spouse. Being accountable prevents us from keeping monetary secrets and spending sinfully.
We cannot be one if certain aspects of our loves remain separate. We cannot be divided and maintain wholeness.